Sue: Paul, you are so right. Last night I had a date with a different guy whom I met online. This was our second date. We discussed interests, opinions, experiences, our jobs, without getting personal. We had lively, interesting conversations. There was no physical contact -- we were just getting to know each other slowly and calmly, and neither of us has a preconceived agenda to make things romantic or to create a relationship. And why should we? We don't really know each other.
I don't know if anything will come of this, nor how many other women he's dating, nor if he's seeing someone else regularly. But I can say that I had fun, enjoyed getting to know him better, felt relaxed, and appreciated the lack of pressure.